By the way, Wyldflowa, I'm sure you meant well to your friend by trying to teach her how to eat and how to do things "right", but did she ASK you, or did you just come in and assume she needed your help? That makes a difference to if someone is able to learn what you're trying to teach. Even if you so kindly take the time to explain it to her, if she isn't ready to learn or hear it, she won't learn. It'll only hurt her pride more to have someone who looks down on her and condescends to her. Reading the way you spoke of her, I got the impression you valued her less because she was struggling with what I bet were deep, stressful problems.
I valued her less because she treated me like shit - she'd constantly berate me lambast my artwork and was perpetually tring to get one up on me. I, foolishly, stood by her, tried to be nice to her, tried to help her despite just being something she used to make herself feel a bit better. She never outwardly asked for my help, no, but she would moan and moan about being overweight and I took this as meaning she wanted some help. When you see someone and they've been cutting their arms up because they've just hit the 16 stone mark then it's difficult NOT to try and step in and do something. She just carried on, didn't listen and didn't appreciate that I was being what I considered a good friend to someone who wasn't one in return. :/ If she was thin I'd still be bitching about her! She was horrid to me!
Honestly, if she hadn't moaned about it or cut herself about it then I wouldn't have said anything. I totally don't mind what size, shape or colour someone is~ My anger towards her is fuelled by how she treated me like an emotional doormat, not her weight. I might sit here and go "goddam what a fat bitch!" the same way you talk in your post about "that blonde bitch" - I have nothing against fat people like you have nothing against blonde people, it's just the nearest adjective I've got to hand when describing her. =_=
*sighsighs* Really, I'm not a horrible person, I just wanted to do something to stop her from hurting herself and all she seemed to do is throw it in my face. I don't have the patience or the lack of self-respect to let myself get repeatedly trampled just for trying to be nice to someone. If all overweight people are like that then damn, no wonder they don't get much sympathy. But I guess they're not all like that... this is just the only experience I have dealing with someone like that and it's really jaded me tbh.