I still wish we could have a discussion about the positive aspects of what I call REAL Christians or real Christianity, and that would be difficult for those who have never really encountered one.
Please believe me, possibly the biggest bane of my existence is so-called Christians who don't live what they're taught (hypocrites) or who have been taught wrong by people/ministers/priests with agendas that are contrary to Jesus' teachings. In both cases, people get hurt and who gets the blame? All Christians, because of the misguided actions of some.
and there's why usually it boils down to an argument. those "so-called" christians are REAL christians, you just don't like their personal expression of your beliefs.
when non-christians have a problem with the religion it's because of these whack-jobs using hypocrocy to justify being utter tyrants with their beliefs And the otherwise agreeable people that do nothing to make them stop because they sharing a religion.
we complain to the whack-jobs all the time, but they don't care because we're "heathens" or something. you're christian and you disapprove of their actions too? Great! how about you let them know that and do something about them! they're effectively causing this trouble in your name, and if you don't go out and say "hold on, i didn't approve of this crap!" people are going to align their actions with you, too.
i still field questions on why the US voted for bush twice and hasn't given up the "war on terror". i never voted for him, i told everyone i knew not to vote for him, a called pretty much every one of his ideas shit at great length, but because i happen to be american it's assumed i somehow agree with americas choices during the eight years dubya stupid-tourture.