If the decision to abort is ever really that vapid, can it remain so through the process? It won't be so again...
Why does everybody seem to think abortions are so easy? Even when medical science makes the process smoother, society and psychology still puts a weight on the woman's shoulders.
I don't think the process of abortion is easy but just because something is difficult doesn't mean that it's automatically better. Birth isn't exactly an easy procedure either what with the labour, the pain and the possible complications. Women have been known to unexpectedly die in childbirth.
Fathers should only get more of a say when they have the ability to bear the child instead.
Then people shouldn't be asking the father for child support. If people didn't think he should have any say on what happens, then he shouldn't be expected to be involved with the end result. Some fathers can't even afford child support but they get punished for not paying anyway. Why should they get punished for a decision someone else made?
In fact, wouldn't this be the ultimate form of pro-choice? Pro-choice not just for the woman but for the man as well?
I firmly believe that the adoption system needs to be fixed. but until that day, you can't really say that giving it up for adoption would be actually be a postive expernice or a better expernice for the baby, espeically if it grows up and it still hadn't been adopted into a family yet.
I fully agree that I cannot say that they will have a positive or better experience. But I also think that I cannot say that they will have a negative or worse experience. That's because they've never been born. Will the baby be adopted or left in the adoption system? Will the baby have good foster parents or bad foster parents? Will the baby grow up to be an upstanding citizen or a criminal? Nobody will know because that baby had never left the womb.
Which is why some people give up their babies for adoption. They're not selfish, mean or ignorant. While you recognize the negative aspects of the adoption system, they recognize the positive aspects of the adoption system. They may feel that while they can't provide the care and love the baby needs, someone else will be able to and that someone else will adopt their baby. Maybe someone will adopt the baby, maybe someone wouldn't but you'll never know if you sucked the fetus out of your womb.
It's all a matter of persepctive. If in your point of view, the baby has a good chance of having a loving home, a decent life and a bright future, wouldn't you then be selfish for aborting the child anyway?
.: Black Kitty :.